or as a family, I’m careful to be as sharp and alert as possible in my mental attitude, dress, and common courtesies. Whatever I would offer to church members, I want to offer that and more, if possible, to my own family.” A fifth strategy is to control the telephone, that invader of family privacy. While it’s not possible or desirable to eliminate people’s access to you via the phone, some pastoral families have found it beneficial to limit it at certain times. “At times we turn the phone off when